This Holi Be uniquely you. Stand out. Or blend in. Shine. Or be mellow. Be colorful. Or wear a lot of black. I do. The world needs your prismatic soul!
I love the conversations around ‘owning’ it – If you have curls, you don’t go straighten them, you pamper your curls and wear them with pride. You’ve put on some pounds but it doesn’t stop you from dressing up or feeling sexy, you still love yourself, workout and take care of yourself. Your waist size does not correlate with your happiness quotient. You are single, you are divorced, your partner doesn’t commit, you want no strings attached. You own it. No explanations to anyone. I happened to see a recent Miss India contestant who’s speaking proudly about her dad who drives an autorickshaw for a living. Nothing to hide or be embarrassed about!
This also reminds me of one of my favourite dialogues from ‘Game Of Thrones’.
Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.
This line is spoken by Tyrion Lannister (played by Peter Dinklage), in the episode “Winter is Coming,” in Game of Thrones, written by David Benioff and D.B. Weiss (2011- ).u
Tyrion seems to be everyone’s favorite character in Game of Thrones, and for good reason. He is a huge underdog in the series because he is despised by his family for being a dwarf, but even so, he gets some of the best lines and is chock full of wisdom and wit.
Tyrion shows us a bit of this wisdom early on in the series when the Lannisters, along with King Robert Baratheon, come to visit Ned Stark and to make him Hand of the King. Tyrion runs into Jon Snow, the illegitimate son of Ned Stark, who is doing his best wallflower imitation while everyone else is feasting. They get off on the wrong foot when Tyrion calls him “bastard” a few times, but Tyrion ends up giving Mr. Broody a great piece of advice.
Basically, Tyrion tells Jon that his status as being illegitimate in a society obsessed with birth and bloodlines can be his greatest asset. He can own the insult of “bastard” and be great in spite of it, just like Tyrion ends up rising pretty high in the service of two different rulers, despite being a dwarf. Jon Snow does take his advice to heart.
I also keep hearing from social media and other platforms and bloggers nowadays about being real and being uniquely you. But what does being you and being authentic even look like? And how do you know when you’re being authentic. Being authentic is very much just being able to own the truth of all that you are, all the good, the bad, and the ugly. As a person, realize that you have more than just one dimension. You have to give yourself permission to acknowledge how great you really are and use that to expand your relationships, your business, and your life.
Holi for me has always signified joy, abandon, and a sort of – how do I explain it – a homogeneous blending in kinda like when I used to wear a uniform in school. It doesn’t matter what you are wearing, how you look, if your hair is messy or if you’re wearing the right shoes or watch or whatever. When all of us are smeared in tens of colours, none of these superficial things matter. And just for those few hours playing with colours, we can all focus on what the Dalai Lama says is the real purpose of our lives – being happy!
Happy Holi Everyone! Hope you had a splash!