“Real wealth is never having to spend time with assholes.” – John Waters
I love that line. In my life, I’ve quit jobs and turned down projects because I just didn’t like the people I had to work with. It was very hard to do as an employee but easier now as I am my own boss. But honestly, it’s something I’ve been practising for years. Even as a child, I’d just stop talking to friends and classmates who were rude, lying assholes. I’d look through them and they just stopped existing after a while. I believe that life is too short to tolerate people who don’t respect you. I’m very selfish and my time on earth is limited and very precious to me – less than 10,000 days in all probability. If someone decides to be rude and assholey, they can find someone else to be themselves with.
On the positive side, the world actually has a lot of wonderful folks and I’d rather share my time with these beautiful people who enrich my life.
‘I’m rich! I don’t mean money-wise. I mean that I have figured out how to never be around assholes at any time in my personal and professional life. That’s rich. And not being around assholes should be everybody’s goal‘. – John Waters
As an idealist, I’ve sometimes attempted to change assholes. It was a waste of my time, it never happens and you can never change someone’s nature. Even worse, some of their assholeyness starts to rub off on you.
The late Anthony Bourdain mentioned his “no asshole” rule in an interview with GQ:
“It is truly a privilege to live by what I call the “no asshole” rule. I don’t do business with assholes. I don’t care how much money they are offering me, or what project. Life is too short. Quality of life is important. I’m fortunate to collaborate with a lot of people who I respect and like, and I’d like to keep it that way.”
The “no asshole” rule is great. Make your life easier, stress-free and beautiful. Just get rid of all the assholes.