The Here And Now

The Hedonist (2016) Drawing 11.7 W X 16.5 H x 0 in
The Hedonist
Drawing 11.7 W X 16.5 H x 0 in

The sun sets today to rise again tomorrow and the moon has to come out every night. Flowers bloom and then wither away. The yellow bananas all turn swiftly black. Everything that is born in this world dies. All that surrounds us, regardless of how long it’s been here, will eventually turn to dust. So, when David Bowie sang “Ashes to Ashes” he was quite right.

This natural law of impermanence includes the meat suit you are currently wearing. If you are in India, your particular meat suit’s expiration date is around 66.21 years – not 100 as perpetuated by the ‘Sau Saal jiyo’ (live a 100 years) blessings from your grandmother.

This realization of mortality and impermanence usually leads me to sigh and say “life is too short” then go back to distracting myself with daily chores. But some days, I meditate for a moment on that fact.

I’m going to die. We all are. The things around me are temporary. They all are. That building I can see from my kitchen window, the car I drive, my dogs, my family – they will all go, including me. Even the way I feel right now, happy or sad, is a momentary feeling.

I don’t hate that boss from 2011 anymore, I don’t crush on Kit Harrington like I used to and I’m certainly not going to love hoarding distressed denim in 2018. There is no use denying or avoiding it – if anything, it’s empowering to know that everything is temporary.

I’m trying to embrace the limitations that being mortal gives me, figuring out the exact kind of life I want to live so I have minimal regrets—and going for it. There’s nothing holding me back when I try to embrace impermanence. Well, at least this is my ‘temporary’ state of mind today.

What is your idea of a perfect life or perfect death? Mine is to be able to have a bubble bath everyday and die a sudden death in my sleep. Tell me yours. Comment.

20 thoughts on “The Here And Now

  1. Haha! I love the conversation between you and your husband . . I think all husbands are the same! Mine always comments when I have too much of something in the fridge. . and he thinks its gonna go bad. . Your bundt cake is lovely! and wow! 4:30am?! wow. that’s dedication. love that!I am so going to use your line, “I’m the boss of this kitchen, you just get to eat in it.” – I love this!

  2. Clown Nem vagyok biztos benne, hogy van mit előásni. Azt ne felejtsük el, hogy az A/B hajtóműveit már nem igazán használja senki. (Az MLU gépek asszem vagy újat kaptak, vagy kalapáltak rajtuk.)Tetszik / Egyetértek: 0 Az értékeléshez be kell

  3. My partner and I shared a few meals, because the bread bowls of soup and the salads are large enough for two to share. Plus the wild ducks enjoy the bread leftovers. We ate at the Pacific wharf in dca and at the restaurant near the rivers of america in dl. All meals were outstanding

  4. I cant take my mind off the person who just disappears forever especially when he is not supposed to pass away at that age. Death is very strange, It arouses everyone’s curiosity. I simply cannot imagine “no more Me”. I think everyone desires for a “bed- riddenless” death.

  5. Like Andy says in shawshank get busy living or get busy dying I don’t want to have time to think about death bcos I’m so busy living it up

  6. I want lots of people to cry when I die thousands I want the life and death of a superstar and I want to die young old age is a curse

  7. I want to die in my sleep too but I want to be so alive and live and see and taste and smell and experience and feel everything that there is in this world. I’ll sleep when I die.

  8. Beautiful writing! I want to die of a heart attack in the middle of a big party I want my whole life and death to be one big endless party and you’re invited Sapna

  9. Donno bout death bt ma perfect life wud b no work n livin in a house inside a huge garden like lalbagh I no wat ur thinkin I wNt 2 b Adam

  10. When I will pass away please celebrate. I would very much like all people who have known me to sing or dance or laugh to be in joy standing in the middle of their own life. That would be my perfect life and my perfect death at the same time.

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